Thursday, April 12, 2007

Working things out

Today would have been my father's seventy-fourth birthday. He died in August 1999. It seemed to be a quick death from our perspective, but for the amount of pain he was in, it was agonizingly slow. I regret that I cut short our last conversation - he was in quite a bit of pain, so I told him I'd catch him the following week, but there was no following week.

A colleague has been diagnosed with Pick's Disease. He's only in his fifties. Many of us have been quite affected by this news, putting together all the little symptoms we just didn't recognize, much the same way he suddenly doesn't recognize us. I wonder if he understands that many of us appreciated him?

I have two dear friends making big life decisions, and they both asked me for advice, which I did my best to give them. I think I gave good advice. However, in doing so, I realize how I don't follow that advice. Things that seem so clear in hindsight or from the outside are so blurry in the moment. I guess I'm just dwelling on all of this because there are changes ahead, and I'm faced with uncertainty and situations out of my control. I'm feeling on edge and I'm hoping the choices I've made are the right ones. I can certainly think of things I should have done and things I should have said, but never did.

Sometimes it just feels better to write things down.

It rained tonight, unexpectedly. What a gift.

And there's always Saturn, from Cassini

7 comments:

Judy said...

HUG

Dr. Lisa said...

Thanks, Judy. Much appreciated.

Some said...

Some advice from one advice giver to another:

If you made the best decision you could given the information you had, you shouldn't feel guilty if (IF) the results of the decision don't turn out the way you wanted.

Besides, your friends will still be there (hug), as well as beer...oops, I mean chocolate.

Aaron said...

I think my unused blogger account has been hacked...

Greg van Eekhout said...

We'll have snacks this weekend. Snacks don't fix everything, but they can't hurt.

Kirsten said...

It's hard to give up control over things, and to make changes when you're not guaranteed the perfect outcome. It's kind of like tightrope walking. But you have to remember, your friends and loved ones are the net that will catch you if you fall.

But I don't think you'll fall.

Dr. Lisa said...

Awwww...thanks, guys, and I look forward to snacks later!

And I'll do my best not to fall, but watch out for incoming, K!